Heavy Chested Nollywood actress Ronke Oshodi Oke is one actress who is known for her bluntness and this thread of hers came to the fore when she was asked to share her opinion on bread wining and family responsibility and staying submissive.
Oshodi said you can’t expect her to stay submissive, take care of the family bills, keep a career and still cook or remain submissive if she is the breadwinner of the family.
She argued that a marriage where the woman is the one paying the utility bills, providing the school fees of the children, food and other important things cannot work.
Oshodi blamed this cultural change education and woman empowerment in these words .
“That is what is trending now and do you know why it is like that? It is because we are exposed. Everyone wants to work. Everyone wants to earn money. Thirty or forty years ago, it was our fathers that were earning money. Ladies don’t really use to go to universities. They were like if I go to a university, no one would marry me again.
“My father used to say that he can never marry a graduate. He used to tell me he cannot marry a nurse. But now, I would bring 50, the man would bring 50 or I would bring 70 the man would bring 30 or he would bring 70, I would bring 30 because we have to work hand in hand.
So how do you think we can sustain the marriage. It is not going to work. It is not because we don’t want to really be in our husband’s house or that we are not submissive enough, it is not just going to work.
“I am going to pay the NEPA bill, I would provide foodstuff if you don’t have, I would pay the school fees if you don’t have, I would do some certain things if you don’t have. And then you would now come and expect me to cook for you or come and meet food when you come back home, it is not going to work.
It is not just going to work. That is just it. But if you are a man and you are doing everything, absolutely everything, that is when you can have total control of your wife” she said